Key Takeaways
- Jay has referred to herself as a ‘late bloomer,’ saying she didn’t discover her homosexuality until her mid-20s.
- Love found its way into Jay’s life through an on-and-off 17-year relationship with Yanise Monte.
- While Jay has not explicitly stated her gender identity, she has made several references to challenging traditional gender roles and norms in her personal life and comedy.
New York: Stand-up comedian Sam Jay is making waves in the comedy world with her fearless takes on hot-button issues like gender and sexuality.
While outspoken about many topics, the 43-year-old has been relatively private about her own gender identity.
In interviews, Jay has referred to herself as a ‘late bloomer,’ saying she got her period late, developed physically late, and didn’t discover her homosexuality until her mid-20s.
But it wasn’t just her physical development that took its time; Jay also took a while to find her comedic voice, diving into stand-up at 29.
Now, at 43, Sam stands tall as one of comedy’s most daring voices, fearlessly tackling controversial topics without falling into the trap of dogma.
Love entered Jay’s life through an on-and-off 17-year relationship with Yanise Monte, also known as Vanity Vixen.
Their journey began over a decade ago in Atlanta, where they met through mutual friends.
“I was digging her,” Jay said, reminiscing about their first encounter.
Despite the ups and downs, their connection remained steadfast.
In her 2020 Netflix special ‘3 In the Morning,’ Jay poked fun at their domestic roles, joking that her wife Monte expects her to carry all their bags on a flight because ‘she forgets, I’m not a man.’
The line seems to nod at Jay’s more masculine gender presentation humorously.
While Jay has not explicitly stated her gender identity, she has made several references to pushing back on traditional gender roles and norms in her personal life and comedy.
Her wife affirms this, saying,
“We argue a lot and wipe boogies on each other. It’s very immature.“
Vanity Vixen
Whether Jay identifies as gender non-conforming, non-binary, or simply refuses to be boxed into strict gender categories is unclear.
What is clear is that she accepts uniqueness and authenticity over convention in her relationships, comedy, and way of being.
In Case You Didn’t Know
- Sam Jay is the co-creator and star of ‘PAUSE with Sam Jay.’
- Jay lost both her parents and step-parents at a young age.
- She was born in Atlanta and raised in Boston, Massachusetts.
